May 2005, Volume 35 Number 5 , p 24 - 24
© 2005 Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, Inc. Volume 35(5) May 2005 p 24 The myth of closure [INSIGHTS ON DEATH & DYING: GRIEVING]
UFEMA, JOY RN, MS
My younger brother was killed in a car crash last year. I still have bad days when I miss him and cry at work. One of my co-workers, a psychiatric nurse, says I need to move on and find closure. How do I do that? K.L., BRITISH COLUMBIA
If by closure she means letting go of precious memories, I don't think we ever find closure when a loved one dies. Nor would we want to. I'd never want to get over the death of my parents, for example. I've processed their absence and miss their place in my life, but I certainly haven't moved on in the sense of eliminating their memory from my heart.
I've always respected the work of J. William Worden, ...